A Reminder to Parents: Spend Quality Time with Your Kids
As a millennial mom, we want to capture almost everything our child does. We find pleasure in recording all the milestones our child achieves.
There’s really nothing wrong with that, we only want to have something to remind us of their childhood, a candid photo to show them when they’re older.
That’s what I thought.
While scrolling on Instagram, I came across Isabelle Daza’s video post. It was a video shot in his son’s perspective, how he sees the day, with his mom taking pictures here and there. I was really touched and realization hit me.
No doubt she is right, that while wanting to capture our child’s precious moments, we are losing actual bonding moments with them. Instead of playing with them, we sometimes let them play alone and hold our phone to take photos and videos.
We forget that what matters most in their young minds is our presence. We may be spending a lot of time with them, but just how present are we?
Now, imagine a day with your kid. How often do you pick up your phone to snap a photo? How often does she see your phone in front of her?
Admit it or not, this is something most of us is guilty of.
My husband and I work far from home and we only get to spend weekends with our daughter. Taking morning selfies is one of our bonding. She really loves to take photos as much as we do.
Given the chance, we usually spend time going to places and eating out. Now that I think about it, half of the time we were out, I was actually taking photos.
And for what?
Aside from keeping memories, we take photos to share in social media. To share how proud we are of our child. How happy we are together and all that stuff.
Don’t get me wrong mommies, social media has its benefits.
If not for instagram, I will not be inspired to write this article. However, moderation is the key. We do want to limit our child’s use of gadget, are we setting good example?
This is but a kind reminder for us mom and dad, take time to be present and make your presence count.
- Have a daily “connect” time with your child. Do this face-to-face, if possible.
- Create a special ritual for you and your child—something that can be done every day.
- Tell your child you love her every day. And tell her how important she is to you and how she makes you feel.
- Reinforce positive behavior.
- Make and eat meals with your children whenever possible.
- Schedule time for doing an activity of your child’s choosing. Be sure to follow through and complete the activity without any distractions.
- Play with your child, even if it’s during bath time or outside before you drop her off at preschool. Every little bit of time makes a positive impact!
- Laugh and be silly with your child.
- Turn off technology when you spend time with your child. Try not to text, answer calls, scroll through social media, or watch television.
Try as much as possible to give them experience gifts in case you are guilty of not being present. We already gave you some emotions evoked from these gifts instead of material things.
- The excitement and awe of a magical theme park.
- The adrenaline rush of coming down a water slide and the increased heart rate from all-day swimming. Check out our reviews of Camp Pulong Gubat, Isola Vista, and beaches.
- The fear of a safari adventure and fun farm experience. Check out our fun farm experience at Sta. Elena.
- The gaining of insights and serenity of a walk to museums.
- The pleasure from delectable food and appetizing meals.
Follow these tips and you can’t go wrong. If you like this article, do not forget to share. Always watch out for our parenting tips.