The Love Dare First Edition: A 40 Days Love Journey
Are you busy with your kids and you are somehow taking your spouse for granted? Too busy with your career, managing your time between work and love life? Why don’t you stop for a while and think of how lucky you are to have a partner who puts up with you whatever your mood is?
The love dare book is circulating the internet since 2008 and used in a drama film Fireproof to save the marriage of the couple Caleb and Catherine. It is a 40-day Christian devotion which contains scripture and day’s dare designed to strengthen marriage and relationships.
So let us give this a try, making tomorrow as the first day. Feel free to download it here. While browsing the challenges, I cannot help but smile with the day’s dare as my spouse may probably wonder what occurred to me. You see, I tend to bully my husband a lot and sometimes he cannot tell when I am being serious or joking around. But why not, let us hope he is busy watching NBA games, or at work and this will not pass his news feed. This way, he will not know that I am doing a little experiment. I will give you update by end of the day, please check love matters link here.
Day 1: Love is patient
OK so the first day passed by quickly but I am telling you that this is difficult for a blunt and straightforward person like me. I had to filter every word before actually saying anything, quite a challenge. He noticed, alright! Ha! And even asked me to keep it up but the voice inside me keeps asking how long I have to endure this. Looking at next day’s love dare, seems no chance. So I need to continue this technique – when you are tempted to annoy your spouse, bite your tongue until you feel the pain and bleeding to death so you cannot say the word. Kidding! Until you realize that day one is about patience and you are committed to this 40-day love journey.
Day 2: Love is kind
For the second day, I could not think of unexpected gesture but to allow him an uninterrupted me time without any “bashing”. I used to say something to annoy him as my odd way of showing fondness which he always replied with a laugh. But there was a different excitement in him when I said I missed him when he got back. Since it was so random, he even said, something’s fishy. Ha! You should try it.
Day 3: Love is not selfish
Too funny, thus far. He still think I am up to something when I said I was thinking of him to complete this love dare for the third day. He’s still all smile, alright. I read somewhere that you can develop a habit when you are doing it for at least 21 days. So probably, if I keep this up, he will think that I totally changed. And I could really adopt this new personality. Oh no! I do not know if I will like the new me. But let’s do the next love dare.
Day 4: Love is thoughtful
This love dare is easy as we are actually doing this daily so I can proceed to next with flying colors.
Day 5: Love is not rude
So I asked the husband and I was at my sweetest and he said he could not think but two. When I get mad at him and when I ask him to get me something within my reach. So I laughed out loud because I am intentionally doing the second one. Indeed we had a great time talking about do-you-remember-when and moments when we were arguing about silly things in the past. Give this a chance, it is fun!
Day 6: Love is not irritable
Let us admit it. We are used to our partners forgiving us whenever we snapped because of a bad day at work or during red days. We do it because we know after we say sorry and repeat our terrible excuse, they will understand. Just think about the days when you’re still getting to know each other and you were able to react lovingly, afraid of losing him one day. Work on it daily until you’re both 70 because you may still lose him one day.
Day 7: Love believes the best
While writing down the good qualities, I cannot help but notice how many positive things I can think of and only very few negative traits. I realized how lucky I am to have my husband in my life and thanked him for being a caring and loving husband plus a hands-on dad.
Day 8: Love is not jealous
I burned the list of his negative attributes which are very few at least compared to mine, ha! Then we had a serious talk on his latest career move. This is not something I can share right now as the discussion is still ongoing. But whatever his plan is, whether the result will be good or bad, I give him my 100% support.
Day 9: Love makes good impressions
It is true. Along the daily routines, I tend to not reflect the love along my greeting. Gone are the days of sweet endearments even simple good mornings or good nights. I am always in a hurry to go to work in the morning. And with two kids, most conversations are about them. “Did you bring the kids to school? Are their homework done? What can they bring for packed lunch?” It is nice to be reminded of this thought to slow down and appreciate the ever reliable spouse that I have.
Day 10: Love is unconditional
Well we may be always rushing every morning but we find time to still eat breakfast together. We share a cup of coffee and I always look forward to our talks. There are dinners too but kids get up late. So we have peaceful mornings if you know what I mean. Both of us appreciate the little things like this and I think that is why we are still happy together.
So this is the first chapter of this love dare. All I can say is that it changed me completely. Not only me, but my husband. I noticed that he’s extra sweet too and eager to go home from work. He always has a smile on his face and slow to anger too. This is really something and will definitely change your relationship for the better. You should try it now. I am looking forward to the next 30 days. Follow love matters for the next chapter.